Are you ready for this kind of commitment? This isn’t just the next step in the relationship - till death do us part. Just because her mother and I are divorced - does not mean I would accept that from you.
What qualities do you see in my daughter that make you believe she’ll be a good wife?
How do you handle conflict?
What are your personal and career goals?
Would you be willing to get marriage counseling if your marriage encountered hardship?
Where do you see yourself and my daughter in 5-10 years?
What are the major differences between you and my daughter?
What do you not like about my daughter?
Have you ever been engaged or married before?
Are you going to take care of my daughter financially? I want you to work hard, provide for her and your family, and never use money as a weapon. Many divorces are a result of money issues. She doesn’t have to live in a Taj Mahal, but she should have a safe and comfortable home, clothing and food.
What are your thoughts on saving money? When would you consider getting a loan instead of paying for something with cash?
Are you going to take care of her mentally? I know how smart she is right now, and you should too. I want her to be smarter after living with you than she is now. You should challenge her mentally, encourage her, build her up, help her to achieve her goals, and assist her in growing closer to God in wisdom and knowledge.
Are you going to take care of her emotionally? Two things will destroy your marriage: self-centeredness and bitterness. Guard against these. Inside my daughter’s heart is a round hole I call “emotional need.” Inside of your heart as a man is a square peg that is somehow going to have to “fit” with her. Are you willing to knock off the edges of that square peg in order to fulfill her emotional requirements? She doesn’t think or react like you do. You may see something and laugh — she may see it and cry. You may say something that you thought was the sweetest thing in the world, and it may make her madder than a hornet! God designed you to be the one who can meet her needs; are you willing to guard against self-centeredness and bitterness and take care of my daughter’s emotional needs?
Are you going to take care of her physically? As a father, it has been my job to protect my “princess.” As her husband, your job is to protect your “queen.” I want to know that if someone threatened her, you would step in front of her. And protecting her physically also means intimately. What you see on TV, the movies and pornography — that is not real life. Don’t get kinky or stupid with my daughter. And it goes without saying that she had better never live in fear of you physically! Just take care of her in every way possible.
Are you going to take care of her spiritually? Your job will be to help get her to heaven. You need to understand that. God needs to be a central point of your marriage.
When you have children, do you plan to raise them in the Catholic faith? God needs to be a central point of your family.
Why do you think you deserve to marry my daughter?
If you can take care of my daughter financially, mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually, then you have my blessing. If you can’t do these five things — I need to know now.
Do you have any questions for me?